My New York Life #3: Thanksgiving Adventures

I hope that everyone had a great Thanksgiving holiday! I will say that mine had me missing my family but I had an event filled break. I thought it would be fun to break it down a little. Also, let me know how your Thanksgiving was down below!

Wednesday 11/21: Prep Before the Storm
I knew that I would need all the energy that I could muster. I had intended to wake up early so that I could sleep early but that didn’t work. I woke up pretty late and then just relaxed at my apartment and enjoyed the confines of my room. I ended up going to bed around 8:30-9 because…

Thursday 11/22: Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade
I woke up around 1:30AM to work the Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade! I got ready slowly and took my time. My roommate made me a breakfast sandwich which I heated and took with me when I got on the subway at 3:00AM. I also want to point out that there were still people at 3:00AM in the subway from workers, homeless, and other commuters. I was a little surprised and honestly thought that I would be unsafe but it wasn’t that bad at all. I sat on the subway for quite a bit before it moved which I wasn’t surprised by. I got to Herald Square around 4:00AM and relaxed before heading up around 4:30AM. I got up to the third floor and got ready for the onslaught! Just kidding. The stilt walkers arrived in slow waves. I was definitely in the slower entering group of people. The parade itself was something I didn’t get to see but I enjoyed working the parade!

I FaceTimed my family and we all took photos as I was walking to 42nd. I definitely missed my family. I got home around 1:30PM. I saw two of my roommates and felt too exhausted to actually going out with one of them to a friendsgiving. I decided to do laundry and watch television. I did fall asleep for 15 minutes because I was just that tired.

Ice Rink @ Rockerfeller Center

Friday & the Weekend: I definitely wanted to do some Black Friday shopping because it has always been a tradition within my family to go out and enjoy the good deals. Shout out to all the troopers who worked their butts off during that whole weekend! I ended up going out in the afternoon to SoHo and grabbing a couple of hot ticket items in Uniqlo, H&M, and Sephora. I spent the rest of my weekend relaxing for the most part. I really needed it since this week has been full of meetings and getting other things in order. I did enjoy what felt like a really long weekend. I need another one please!

xoxo
Tiffany

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Snow For Days…

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Surprise! You get a life post. I will probably do these along with my usual Saturday post. Enjoy.

Too bad the snow is causing me to go in this weekend to work on production needs. Sadly, this means that I will miss a Pokemon Go community event and a friend’s birthday dinner but that’s life. It was fun while it lasted, you know? We ended up getting a total of 6 inches after it had fully stopped snowing. Living in North Carolina and getting this much snow means that the whole state just doesn’t know what to do with itself.

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The snow was really fluffy this go-around. Yesterday, I hardly did homework but I did a little bit thinking I was going in today. Thankfully, the school has continued to stay closed and I have been working a little to catch up. My sister and I have been snowed in and enjoying our days at home. Tomorrow, school is canceled until 10 a.m. but that doesn’t mean I am off the hook. I am taking a guest artist we have had to the airport since my professor has a class to teach. You would think that it is odd but it really isn’t. My school is different in the ways that professors and students interact and we are more integrated to treating each other as equals which are not always the case.

Snow days in NC = CLOSED. I am sure it is hilarious to Northerners who think this is nothing.

How has your day been?

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Dependency, Being Hurt, and Not Eating

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Honesty is the best policy and I want to make sure that I don’t hold things in. You know? But, 2018 has just started and I am already feeling a whirlwind of emotions.

I am just overcome with this weird feeling that I can’t seem to shake and I am sure that I am not alone when it comes to feeling this way. Being dependent on people. I am very much an independent person when it comes to loving being alone, driving instead of being a passenger, and being productive by myself. Maybe being dependent isn’t a bad thing but it is when I can’t seem to eat without having company. I think that it is nice, don’t get me wrong. But, when I forgot my lunch on Thursday, I was about to skip my lunch meal because I didn’t want to eat by myself.

I overcame it by sending my sister texts to “just do it” and went to Zaxby’s and picked up some food. It wasn’t so bad once I sat in my studio and just started to eat and watch an episode of Gossip Girl. However, I do not want to be trapped in the quicksand that is being dependent and forgetting to be independent and enjoying that freedom. As many of you know, I love to travel alone and really take in the environment and world. Maybe it is because I am in school right now and with so many people around I feel alone. An odd feeling but I thought that this would be good to just let out and express.

Now, I have this one friend who is in another state on an internship, an amazing one that sounds awesome. She is having fun and we have been talking on Snapchat since the beginning of the year consistently. I was in the studio on Tuesday and my other friend got a call from the one on an internship and I felt hurt. I am not really a person who likes to talk on the phone but I feel that phone conversations really elevate a relationship when there is distance physically or time. I was doing work and pretending not to know that she was on the phone but when my friend told the other that I was in the room, I said, “hello.” I probably should have just said that it hurt my feelings a little but we never took initiative in that way. However, I saw her Snapchat the following evening and she definitely wanted to call me. I think that she may have sensed that I was hurt and I think that we are close enough friends for her to know what emotional state I am in or how much I overthink.

Right now, I am typing this last section and also not eating dinner. Why? Well, it is because I am going through a bit of anxiety because a group of friends is over and there are too many people. By too many people there are 7 people right now. We moved to a smaller house almost one year ago and space, to me, is smaller but enough for me, my sister, and our roommate. I know that it probably does sound odd that I am hiding in my room and avoiding friends but I just don’t feel up to seeing people. Is that odd? No. But avoiding people and not eating to avoid them is.

Anyway, the first week of classes is done and that was the last time I will have the first week of classes at my college!

How has everyone’s week been? I want to hear it! Also, my Berlin posts are happening now so expect them starting next week!

Side note: I did end up eating around 10pm after everyone left.

-Tiffany

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Wanderlust #21: Misconceptions of New York

IMG_2835New York has always been a place that I wanted to go to and when I was around the age of 11 or 12, my whole family went for a wedding. I have never been more afraid in my life. My parents, like many others, are super overprotective and very cautious. It frustrates me to this day that they impose their fears onto me because I don’t want that negativity in my life. I don’t want my experiences to be soiled by their fears. Thankfully, my idea of New York changed when my friend let me stay at her place. If you have seen my recent posts, I talk about my experiences in New York and I cannot wait to go back. Now, before I get into all of this, I will say that there are always truths in each misconception but it is not the full truth. My parents made it seem like New York was full of hooligans and murderers only.

IMG_1097Misconception #1: You will get hurt in New York if you head out at night. I was actually nervous when my friend sent an Uber for me around 10:00 pm because I am not someone who goes out at night at all. I got in and went to her restaurant to find that the people in the restaurant and the people around were really nice. The atmosphere was so different than what I was used to. New Yorkers just don’t care that you are walking around. I was in the Lower East Side which made the experience so much more authentic because it wasn’t full of tourists. I remember going through the city in the wee hours and not feeling weighed down.

Misconception #2: New York is dirty. To a certain extent, yes. I will say that I was nervous because I would see trash bags on the sidewalk and be worried about all the rats. I actually only saw one rat. I found out that the main reason that trash bags are on the street is that there are no trash containers for the trash trucks to grab. The subways are not the cleanest and it does smell but it isn’t the worst thing. I saw so many interesting people on the subway and it really gives you another perspective to the New York experience if you want a well-rounded one.

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Misconception #3: Don’t trust anyone. I can understand this if you are in a heavy tourist area because when I did go to Times Square or Staten Island, so many people kept asking us to buy tickets to this and that. However, if you are not in the main area of New York where there are so many people bombarding you with tickets and things, you can find the gems that are decent people. My friend had to go to work and because I wasn’t going to get to her apartment in time, she left her keys next door at a restaurant with a worker. Another day she left her keys at a deli with the owner for a guest. It blows my mind because I feel like if you did it in other cities that people would give you a funny look. Maybe I am wrong, but it just changed my perception of the people there.

IMG_2819Misconceptions #4: Cabs will steal from you. I am sure that it does happen but each cabbie I was a customer of was either quiet or very nice. I love that the cabs in New York have a credit card machine so you don’t have to have cash on you at all times. I also think that the media portrays some cab drivers as people who will drive away with your luggage or that people will throw up in those cars and the cabbies won’t clean them up.

Misconception #5: You can’t sit on the Met steps. This is going to sound silly but I swear that I read that you couldn’t sit on them because so many people kept doing it when Gossip Girl was on the air.

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Misconception #6: You won’t get anywhere if you take a car. Not true. Sure, you could probably get somewhere by walking much faster than by car. I feel that my friend and I got to the Seaglass Carousel from where she was much faster than if we had taken the subway because we didn’t have to wait for a subway car that was delayed. If you are with a cabbie or uber driver then you are fine because they know just how crazy to drive to get you to your destination.

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Misconception #7: New York is full of people who are not happy with their lives. Not true at all. There are so many people who thrive in New York, like my friend who is living in the city of her dreams. New York offers people so many cultures in one small area of the world. The people who live in New York, truly live in New York, find something about it that speaks to them or keeps them going.

Have you heard any misconceptions of New York that changed?

-Tiffany

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Wanderlust #6: Italy Week 2 + 3

Week 2

To be honest, my second week was filled with sewing my heart away and fittings for the three shows I was working on. I did, however, climb a mountain! Below, you can see me at the top, I am definitely feeling good after walking up for about two hours, including some amateur rock climbing with some ropes and stuff. This was all self-guided so I went with some friends who had gone last year.The fancy drink you see below the picture of my glowing face is a Hugo Rosa Spritz. This is really nice if you don’t like the taste of Aperol. So good!

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Week 3

So, guess who got to go to Florence! I had the wonderful opportunity to go to Florence with the company I interned for. We were going to see David but the line was insane so we just went exploring.

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This photoshoot was happening and it took all of my reserve to not go up and as where the dress was from and where I could get it. Of course, I am sure it costs more than I will make in a lifetime but it was a beautiful dress.

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I went to a garden and finally got to see a lotus in real life. I didn’t think that I would get the chance to but they are one of the most beautiful flowers to ever grave this world. I love that they are water based plants that can just float along.

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Do you love eggplant parmigiana? This was the best eggplant parmigiana I have ever had in my life. I am not even exaggerating when I say that. Of course, I was in Italy so I am getting the authentic experience. You know?

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As interns, we decided to go to a restaurant that has been cracked up to be an amazing experience and it was. I can’t tell you how amazing the view was and the people I was with. The restaurant is owned by a man who cooks everything and his sister is the one who drove us to and from the piazza.

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Above is two types of cheese, green tomato jam, and onion jam. The plate on the right is carpaccio.

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A very nice and soft, buttery cheese that melted in your mouth with what looks like lentils sitting on top.

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Toast with mushrooms and chick peas that tasted like no other. I have never had mushrooms that honestly didn’t have that strong mushroom smell. I love that they were smooth, easy to chew, and just glided down your throat.

The end of this week was an epic and wonderful experience because I really got the feel of getting into the groove of working. I also got to experience what it was like to have a family away from family. I think that I felt like I had a family, really, somewhere between the second and third week. I am so happy to have had the chance to experience this amazing food that was worth every penny. I don’t have any good pictures of the meat but the chef literally brought out giant cuts of meat and weighed them. We had, in total, two kilos of meat which is four pounds!

-Tiffany

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My Anchor In Life | Someone I Can Rely On

Grab a cup of tea to read this. I want to have a bit of a heart-to-heart about something that happened today.

There are so many days where I wish I could just sit on the sand and stare out at the ocean. I feel as though, when the ocean ebbs and flows, reaches my toes and disappears so that I can think clearly. Ocean waves can be metaphors for so many things. I have learned that just as the waves reach my toes and touch me, so do humans. We meet so many people in our lives and they come and go but some stay. I have been extremely cautious about who I spend my time with and how much investment I want to make. I don’t want to continue making meaningless friendships. I used to think that having more friends meant that my life was full. I realized that once entering college that it doesn’t matter how many friends you have if you can’t be honest, open, and non-judgemental of them.

I have a friend who lives in Georgia and he and I have our ups and downs. We were quite close in my first year and I had a huge crush on him. I realized that I was being too naive and selfish when it came to our friendship. I didn’t know how to rationalize and work through feelings of jealousy. I stopped talking to him for a bit, we would talk on Facebook and see each other in our theatre building but it wasn’t the same for a year. I lost a good friendship for a whole year because I hadn’t grown up. I hadn’t figured a way to be honest about my feelings, not romantic, but just finding out how to have close friends. I also thought that he didn’t want to hang out with me because he probably thought I was too clingy. I tend to self-sabotage friendships. I am working on it.

I decided to reach out and realized that we hadn’t talked to each other because we thought we hated each other. We had grown close as friends again and it has been great for two years now. He is moving again down to Florida but I know that I can message him on Facebook whenever I need to. He is someone who will randomly say hello to me when I am having my roughest days. I don’t know how he does it. He is my anchor because he isn’t someone who has the influence of the people at school or my sister. My sister is my rock, I know that she will be there forever but he is my anchor.

To find an anchor in life is to find someone who won’t let you go so easily and is willing to take the good and bad even when they are not there. However, I questioned my anchor today. I posted something on Facebook and the way that he wrote a comment seemed sarcastic. Normally, I wouldn’t think anything about a sarcastic comment, I would even find it funny, but this was about a serious topic. I decided after sitting on it for the day that it bothered me so much that I just asked him.

I think that if I couldn’t ask honest questions that weren’t about how life was going or positive things then what is the point of having someone be your anchor? There is too much going on in my life to keep friends who don’t matter. I can honestly say that having a few good, close friends is the best thing for me. I know that I am still growing to this day and things will change but I hope that my friendship with my anchor will not change too drastically.

So, I want to know, who is your anchor? I want to know who your anchor is that isn’t your sibling or parent, someone who you met by chance or through someone. Let me know below!

-Tiffany

Food For Thought: Who You Are


[powerofpositivity]

I think that it is hard not to think about how far you have come in one year. I know that I do. I have realized that this year has been, quite possibly, the best year of my life. I have learned to work hard, play hard, and keep focused on what I love, who I love, and where I love. To explain that a little further…

What I love is what I have been doing in theatre because it makes people happy, takes them away, and it also helps me become a better designer. I want to be able to touch people in a way that will last a while. Who I love became a very important thing in my life. I am not talking about romantic relationships. I entered my new university as someone who had no one except my sister. I have chosen who I choose to love and dedicate my time, my life, and my space to. Who I love is the friends I hope that I will have for a lifetime. Where I love is what I learned once I finished my semester at my new university because there wasn’t a day that I resented the campus, the people, or environment. I think that it was an important realization because I feel like I belong somewhere that will help me grow as a person and professional.


[innerself]

Looking back to where I have come from has reminded me that my decision to leave my previous university was the right one. My choice to work two jobs for a year was right. My experiences from leaving and working have shaped me to be a better person and I have learned to become patient of the things to come in my life. I never really believed “everything happens for a reason” but I think that this year proved that if the above didn’t happen, I wouldn’t be where I am now.

[pickthebrain]

I just want everyone to know that no matter what you are going through that it is important to learn from the experiences. I am still learning but I want to remind myself of the good that has come from most of my experiences rather than focus on the bad.

-Tiffany

“So, you don’t hate me.” Thanksgiving + Black Friday

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Hi Fleeters! I hope that you had a great Thanksgiving and Black Friday! It has been a while since I have had a good chat with all of you and I just wanted to tell all of you what I have been doing. So, my semester is technically over but I still have exams and two more weeks of work and then I am home free! I went to see my first production of a show I worked on and I am proud of it, even though I just couldn’t stop staring at the costumes. I honestly felt grateful for the time I was able to spend with my family because I haven’t seen them in a month and I really missed my brother.

So, Thanksgiving was a little different this year because my aunt hosted it. I didn’t know how to feel about it since this is the second Thanksgiving without my grandfather, he passed away in 2013. It was a surprisingly good Thanksgiving despite my aunt and uncle failing to reprimand their son because he was literally messing around and making a ruckus in my aunt’s (the one who hosted) house. I got to hang out with my aunt’s dogs, two Pomeranians and a Chihuahua. I did get to look at the Black Friday ads too…

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So, I decided to opt out of Thursday shopping because it is awful that people, who are working retail through many other important events in their lives, also have to work through a day that they might only get to see their families. I have realized that Friday morning is the day to really attack all of the shopping. I don’t mean 12 AM, I mean 7-8 AM. I didn’t need anything fancy, no electronics for me this year, or something that had a small window of time to be purchased. I decided to go to: Michael’s, World Market, A.C. Moore, Ollie’s JCPenney, Office Depot, Walmart, Kohl’s, Hancock’s, Binder’s, and Ulta. There might be a few more places but those are the ones I know I definitely went to. I promise if I had something more exciting, I would definitely share it in a haul!

Now, today, I looked at something I had shared on Facebook and a friend who hasn’t talked to me in a long time, commented on the post. I have had this problem before where I think that if I haven’t talked to someone in so long that we are no longer friends or that they hate me. If you remember, “24” from my posts a long time ago, you will know that we hadn’t talked to each other in almost two years because I thought that he hated me. Well, I was wrong on both accounts. I am guessing that my mind travels to the worst conclusions when there isn’t anything wrong. I may not talk to my friends everyday but when I do talk to them, I hope that they miss my friendship as much as I miss them.

On a lighter note, this year I am grateful for my family, friends, new-found happiness, and you. Yes, YOU! I started The Mermaid Network in January of this year and it has grown into my own corner of the internet where I can share my extreme love of mermaids and the ocean and things that I love.

What was your Thanksgiving/Black Friday like?

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